DANGERS OF PREMARITAL SEX
People desperately need to be loved by someone who is important to them. Just knowing that the opposite sex finds you attractive generates a warm feeling. Before long you are drawn toward sexual intercourse and then begin to think, “If we really love each other, what’s wrong with having sex?“
Sex is an act created by God wherein a MAN exhibits and celebrates his love for his WOMAN. There are many reasons why you should not engage in sex and they add up to one thing: what you gain by sex before marriage is not worth what you lose by it. What do you gain? A brief thrill, perhaps some momentary pleasure, but what you lose can affect your entire life.
There are so many practical reasons why it is not OK! Asides from the very glaring reasons (being hazardous because of veneral diseases etc), others are:
* It can ruin your chances of knowing real love: a girl makes a tragic mistake when she tries to gain love or hold on to it by giving sex. Real love may lead to engagement, marriage and sex but sex does NOT lead to real love.
* It can keep you from ever knowing God’s best: one of the wrong ideas concerning sex is that it is just a physical thrill to be enjoyed with whomever you choose. This makes it cheap and meaningless and disregards certain facts about how we are made. It is such intimate experiences that a part of you remains forever with the other person and when you marry you find that you can never give 100% of your self to your mate. WHY? Because a part of you has been given to others.
* It will hurt your self esteem: a young person’s purity is his/her priceless possession. Sometimes a girl is love hungry and she mistakes a boy’s sex desire for the love she is looking for and gives in. All too often the boy does not really love her or respect her as a person. He wants it, she is available and he uses her to get wants. She is like bargain table goods – “slightly soiled: greatly reduced in price.” She has no where to go in her search for love but to another boy who is looking for sex. She becomes cheap in her own eyes and in the eyes of others.
* Fools you into marrying the wrong person.
* Can ruin your marriage: it greatly reduces your chances of a happy marriage. One reason is that those who play around with sex before marriage tend to do the same thing after marriage. They are never satisfied – always looking for a new thrill.
* You may contract STDs! What are STDs?
STDs are infections that people usually get by having sex with someone who already has one. Some STDs can be treated and cured with antibiotic medicine. Others cannot be cured.
After all practical reasons, one reason more important than all these is that premarital sex is wrong (not OK)! Because God says it is wrong and nothing can change that. So then, I say no.
You cannot claim to love a lady and still want her to sin against her Creator. If you should have sex with her, will that love continue the way it was before you made love to her? “No“. There is nothing as good as patience. Love is patient. If you love your partner you will have to wait after all you will still enjoy it till the day you die. So, why the rush?
